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I felt like someone had died, and in a sense, someone had.

"Slowly the rage turned into hatred.

What's more, I felt very, very sad.

I wanted to kill him.

The heart can really break you know.

I mean I really wanted to kill him.

I can't tell you how many times I thought about going into the kitchen and getting the butcher knife.

My heart hurt so much I didn't even want to feel.

I scared myself with the images that ran through my head.

For months, Kathy bought Ray gifts, tried being nice, hid her anger, convinced ....

This will do nothing to help you cope.

At the time, I felt like the life I had worked so hard for was dead.

It scares me to talk about it even now.

I was the one who had died.

This is why I show you how to talk about the details after I've empowered you to take control over your emotions in the first phase of my 3-phase healing system Three Specific Phases For Restoring The Trust Back Into Your Relationship.

I've felt it." - Kathy Brown Because of the intense pain you're going through, talking about the details at this stage in the game most likely will only confirm the negative feelings you already have about yourself.

However, if both of you are emotionally prepared, you will quickly recover, thus making the experience healthy.

As much as time has the ability to heal, it can also have a negative impact.

My rage and hate were like a shield against these softer emotions.

Mine has.

"Eventually I realized these emotions were masking what I really felt deep down inside: betrayed, humiliated, and defeated.

In addition, most couples experience a regression in their relationship after they discuss the details.

I had no idea I was capable of such feelings of violence.

Letting your emotions run wild and doing the wrong things over and over can eventually disable you and kill your chances at surviving the affair.

Many say time can be a great healer; however, when left without a map, most people usually get lost and drift further apart.